January 2012
52 posts
Good News For Anyone Who's Ever Wished They Had an...
Now you do… Email the incredible British Association of Anger Management, asking them a specific question that pertains to an anger issue you struggle with, and director Mike Fisher will write you back prescribed advice within 72 hours.
Actually, when I wrote in looking for some advice about how to handle a person I have continued conflicts with, Mike wrote me back before the close of...
Are You the Family Black Sheep or Scapegoat?
…Then you might be intrigued by the following excerpt from an essay by Lynne Namka, Ed.D.
Scapegoating is a serious family dysfunctional problem with one member of the family or a social group being blamed for small things, picked on and constantly put down. In scapegoating, one of the authority figures has made a decision that somebody in the family has to be the bad guy. The...
Fury Food: Volume 2, Red Velvet Cake
I think red velvet cake gets a bad rap almost as much as anger does. But let’s be serious, the occasional little bit (or lotta bit) of red food coloring won’t kill you. And neither will confronting an anger you’ve been avoiding for years. Fuck your restraint. The alternative might just be liberating, even, delicious. Red Velvet Cake
Adapted from “The Confetti Cakes...
“Unacknowledged anger against a parent is especially troublesome because you may...”
– Redford B. Williams
#Fury #GoodGirlGoneBallistic
“And, in that instant, my mouth scalded with bleach and shit, I feel the entire fabric of the world begin to undergo a profound shift. I cease to be myself, or rather, my adult self. Time arcs back, carrying me in it. On the ends of my arms, I feel the length of my fingers dwindle. Though standing upright, I sense the floor escalating closer as my legs get shorter. My arms shrink in...
Fury Food: Volume 1, Kung Pao Shrimp
The word Liget, from the Ilongot tribe in the Philippines, refers to anger, but also to energy and passion. The word is ascribed to forces of nature like chili pepper, liquor, wind, rain, fire…
Thought I’d add a new Fury-related food installation to this blog, in an effort to return a little liget to my routine. Eamon and I love making Kung Pao Shrimp on a cold winter’s...
The Fear of Expressing Anger By Margaret Paul,...
There is much to learn from anger, yet many people are afraid of this feeling because they don’t know how to express anger in ways that are helpful rather than harmful. I teach a process at my weekend Inner Bonding workshops called “The Anger Process.” This powerful process, which is described below, is not only for releasing pent-up anger in harmless ways, but for discovering what your...
“When a girl is abused during childhood, she may not experience anger, only...”
– Anger in the Trajectory of Healing from Childhood Maltreatment, S.P. Thomas, S.C. Bannister and J.M. Hall, Archives of Psychiatric Nursing, 2011
A Link Between Un-articulated Anger and Eating...
Do you think there’s a link between un-articulated anger and eating disorders? Take my Fury-related poll, inspired by the following essays and articles:
I See Angry People… by Carrie Arnold at Psychology Today
Anxiety May Cover Anger, by eating disorder expert Karen R. Koening
Rage Against the Machine: Anger and Weight Obsession, by Melissa Dehart
THIS WEEK'S FURY-RELATED CONTEST: "The Ugliest...
The Fury-related contests keep on rolling. Winners receive magnificent prizes by mail. To win, answer this week’s question: What was the ugliest break-up you ever had? Send the inglorious details to furymemoir(at)gmail(dot)com and put “Ugly Break-up” in the subject line.
WINNING ENTRY: MOST RIDICULOUS TALE OF FAMILY...
“My most ridiculous tale of family holiday dysfunction…”
WINNING ENTRY: How about the time when I brought my high school sweetheart to my family Christmas dinner and my old, Italian grandmother attempted to pick at a zit on my girlfriends face thinking it was crumbs of food?
Thank you to everyone who emailed with their stories!
My memoir Fury comes out in paperback this...
