“In a dysfunctional family, you quickly discover that your feelings are a source of danger. You provide safety for yourself by clamping down on your emotions. For example, if you get angry, your anger, rather than being met with a firm but gentle control, is met with the enormous force of an adult’s rage, or with a disproportionate amount of fear or hurt from your parent. Or perhaps your anger is simply allowed to run out of control and escalate to a point where it’s destructive and scary for you. So you learn to control yourself. You squelch your anger and your sadness and your fear… Being in control becomes the most important thing in your life; your survival depends on it. Therefore you push away any feelings that might interfere with a stoic sense of surviving at any cost…What you sacrifice is the right to feel and express the whole range of human emotion: fear, anger, even love.”
- a very Fury-relevant passage from Eva Marian Brown
- January 12 2012 | 1 Notes - Read More →
