“Children’s  normal rages, which intensify during the power struggles of eighteen to  thirty months—those “terrible twos”—require “optimal frustration” that  is neither overly humiliating nor threatening to the child’s emerging  sense of Self.  When children encounter instead a rageful, contemptuous  or teasing parent during these moments, the image of the parent’s face  is stored in the developing brain and called up at times of future  stress to whip them into an aggressive frenzy.”

- Sandy Hotchkiss gives moms like me something Fury-related to think about.

Children’s normal rages, which intensify during the power struggles of eighteen to thirty months—those “terrible twos”—require “optimal frustration” that is neither overly humiliating nor threatening to the child’s emerging sense of Self. When children encounter instead a rageful, contemptuous or teasing parent during these moments, the image of the parent’s face is stored in the developing brain and called up at times of future stress to whip them into an aggressive frenzy.
- Sandy Hotchkiss gives moms like me something Fury-related to think about.